Sun,
17 Apr 2005
Headstone
"Man
is not destroyed by suffering; he is destroyed by
suffering without meaning." - Victor Frankl
Hey
there. It's Sunday night and I wanted to give you
an update. Jade's headstone was set on Friday. Jade
and I have been working on this headstone for almost
a year and I'm so pleased with how it turned out.
The pictures may be too big (hope nobody's computer
expodes) but I wanted you to be able to see the writing
and artwork. Just in case you can't read it very well
I'll include the text.
Everything
on the headstone is quite symbolic. From the two types
of granite, to what is left smooth and what is left
rough, to the angle of some of the cuts, to the text
and artwork. On the side bases is his AG Chief's badge,
a motorcycle, a drum and a Chinese symbol. On the
front are our names and in the center is the Salt
Lake Temple with our wedding date and Garrett's name
listed below. On the bottom front is the phrase/title
I dubbed us with once we got engaged. I told Jade
we would be "One of the Greatest Loves of All
Time." On the base in back are joined hearts
and the personal inscriptions from our wedding bands.
On
Jade's side he wrote,
Salvation
is a gift for those who possess a broken heart and
a contrite spirit. Alma 7:11-12
Yet
learned he obedience by the things which he suffered.
Honesty
lies in our motives not in our actions
But
if not
Timshel
Willing
Submission
Tell
it not
Beware
of it
Charity,
Courage, Determination, Duty, Faith, Fidelity, Grace,
Gratitude, Honesty, Honor, Hope, Humility, Intergrity,
Kindness, Leadership, Love, Loyalty, Meekness, Patience,
Peace, Perserverance, Sacrifice, Service, Strength,
Trust, Truth
On
the center part he put other quotes and sentiments
which were extremely important to him:
The
hands of time are holding me and you
I
can only imagine
It
is not the critic that counts...... Teddy Roosevelt
I
am an optimist....Never, never, never give up. - Winston
Churchill
I
would give my life for the simplicity on the other
side of complexity. (and also by the same man) The
law is the gun on the policeman's hip. - Oliver Wendell
Holmes
Don't
hit at all if it is honorably possible to avoid hitting;
but never hit soft. - Teddy Roosevelt
Jade
asked what I wanted on my stone in back and I told
him I was unfortunately, fairly certain I'd have fifty
to sixty years to figure that out and I'd leave it
blank for now. So, that's part of the explanation
of the headstone. As I said, I'm really pleased with
how it turned out.
How
are Garrett and I doing? Overall, ok. There are moments
that ache like nothing else, but at the same time
we have so much to be grateful for. We're extremely
blessed and feel we are being watched over by friends
and family members seen and unseen. As hard as some
moments are, we still have underlying peace. Thank
you for your friendship and kindness. We have amazing
friends, neighbors and family members. Please know
of our gratitude and the positive impact you have
had and continue to have on our family.
"To
love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides."
- David Viscott
Take
care and we'll keep you posted on how we're doing.
With
love .............................. Tanya.
