Mon, 22 Nov 2004

Loss

Hey there. Wow. What a day. Very tired and drained tonite. Jade caught a cold either in Disneyland or the plane coming back and it was in bloom by Saturday night/Sunday morning and then Garrett's blossomed last night and has been a joy today. Nonetheless, we are still enjoying our time off of chemo. We have this week to spend with friends and family for Thanksgiving then Jade will have his consultation with the radiation doc next Monday.

Sigh.

"It's terribly amusing how many different climates of feeling one can go through in a day."
- Anne Morrow Lindbergh

I've mentioned vaugely a couple times Jade's friend that he met at chemo at Huntsman Cancer Institute. He and Kirk (33 yrs old) have become good friends. We think the world of their family and the courage and strength they have shown. Kirk has been going downhill the past month and we talked with his wife late Sunday night and she said he would probably pass on that night. She invited us to come say good-bye so we went to hug and comfort her and say good-bye to Kirk. He passed on about a minute and a half after we left his bedroom. We've been very sad and teary today at the loss. He was such a great man and father of five children. We'll attend his service on Saturday.

Jade met Kirk in June of this year. The day a couple nurses introduced Jade and Kirk was emotional. We had a call from a friend's mother in Seattle who told us her son passed. We had been in contact with her son for almost six months previous as he battled DSRCT. Jade and I found it ironic we lost Matt in the morning and met Kirk that afternoon.

This morning I received an email from a woman in New Jersey who's husband has DSRCT and found our old website (which is being updated....I'll let you know when it's up and running and current again) and wants to compare treatments and be in contact, etc. It was so ironic again to lose a friend, Kirk, and be introduced to Jay in the same day.

"There are only two ways to live your life.
One is as though nothing is a miracle.
The other is as though everything is a miracle."
- Albert Einstein

So, just feeling sad for Kirk's family and their loss tonite. So grateful for the intertwining of different people's lives in ours. I guess the friendships and connections we have with friends and family are miracles. We're pretty lucky in that regard.

I guess just realizing again how fragile life is has me melancholy tonite and wanting to say:
1) Thank you
2) We love you

If I don't get another chance to email till the wknd . . . . Happy Thanksgiving.

Love.........................Tanya and co.